How to have a killer telephone conversation with a girl?

Talking to a girl on the phone

As I promised earlier, this is my post about how to have a good conversation over the phone. Since these days most of the relations develop over the telephone, it is important that you are equipped with knowledge on how to talk to her over the phone in the best possible way. So let us get down to business:

• Identify yourself:
  In case you are calling or texting her  for the first time and she does not have your number, identify yourself the very first time. Never try to play Guess who or secret admirer game. She would feel as if you are stalking her. Calling without identifying yourself is fine only when you both are great friends, which I suppose is not the case here.
  
  
• Respect her Privacy:
  Just because she gave you her number it doesn't mean she has to talk to you all the time. Respect her privacy and give her the needed space.
  
  
• Talk about something interesting:
  Since in the early stages it is difficult to keep the talk alive over call, I prefer texting. I start with unique forwards then some personal messages like Good Night (Name) or Hey (Name)! Wassup etc here and there. With the text messages the best thing is that you don't crawl into her personal space. Get to know her interests then move onto calls when it is convenient for both of you. And choose topics of interests to both.
  
  
• Move onto personal topics:
  Moving to personal and deeper topics is something to be done with at most care but to be done nevertheless. It is like, you approach indirectly first, then based on her reactions change to a more direct approach. Suppose you need to know her views about love, relationship etc. You can first say, "I had a terrible day. One of my very good friends is left with a broken heart." Then make a story. Tell it convincingly. Then, "What crap yaar, why all the tension? Right?". You can also say, "There was a time when I was hoping for a girlfriend, but now, it is better not to have one." The best thing about this is that she may get the subtle hints of flirting she cannot accuse you of anything as you have said everything indirectly. Parents, siblings, relationships are good way of starting up with personal talk.
  
  
• Give her sound advice:
  If you are able to make a good rapport with her, then it is highly likely that she will for advice with one thing or the other. At those times you need to talk from her point of view and then give a sound advice. It should be something that you may do under similar circumstances, something you can defend.
  
  
• Whisper
  Sometimes if the calls stretch to late night calls. Reduce your voice to a whisper. Say it is because there is someone there at your place or some other reason. She might ask you to keep the phone then. You can say, "No, it is OK. I want to talk, provided you are not feeling sleepy." This acts as if you both are sharing a secret which helps in deepening the relationship.
  
  
• Keep the Phone:
  In case you are feeling sleepy or you feel she is, keep the phone after wishing her for the night. In case she slept off while on call, cut the call and DON'T call or text right then. The next day is OK. Also if she cuts the call without saying anything, don't call her right then. She may have reasons to cut the call and she may not want your calls at that time.
  
  
• Don't always call her:
  It is not important that it should be you whos is calling all the time. She will call you when she misses  you. How to make her miss you? That is what I talked over throughout the blog.

So thats all for time being and take care. Happy Dating

Fast Dates? Myths Busted

Speed dating?

Hey Guys! long time, right? Was working my ass off at office. Well, It is over with. Thought it would never. Anyways, recently a friend of mine asked me a way to speed up the process of impression as the methods I listed are time consuming and slow. Also it cannot be used at restaurants, coffee shops, clubs etc where you see a girl probably for the first time and you don't have all the time in the world to go about with the steps of my suggestions. Well, it is true to certain extend so as to speak. But in order to impress a girl under these circumstances you need one or more of the following:

• Amazing Looks or/ and Lots and Lots of Money
• A really open minded girl
• Pure luck or in other words a chance

I don't need to explain the first point as it is self explanatory. Well regarding the second point, by really open minded girl, I meant someone who doesn't perceive you as a potential threat but rather a potential friend or someone who is interested in her. You can probably identify them if you observe them for sometime. I will write another post on how to identify such girls. But in case you aim of impressing a girl whom you will see just for 5-10 minutes once and maybe never again, then I am sorry to burst your bubble but I don't think these posts can give you a step by step process until and unless, you are Brad Pitt, Hrithik Roshan or someone of that sort. In case you are one of them, all you have to do is to... SMILE.

No matter where you are, there are some instances of pure luck when something happens such that you both get a chance to talk, like common friends, she or her friend accidentally drops Coke, coffee or something of that sort on YOU(Ooh... I seriously doubt you will have time to talk cause you will be busy with cleaning yourself). But whatever, in case you are given with a chance, capitalise it.

So what I mean to say is that there is no step by step guide to impress a woman under these circumstances but the best way is to approach directly. You need to have the balls...(without it, what is the use of the Girl anyways? ;-)) Go talk to her and tell her that you are interested in knowing her. Don't say friendship or something of that sort. Just think nothing worse can happen (provided she doesn't have any guys with her). Probably she will say no, but does that make a difference? There is nothing to lose. But a lot to gain. So just think.

So that is all for this post. Happy Dating...

Step- 2: How to talk to girls

Alright it has been sometime since I posted anything here. It is just that I have been a bit busy with something. But I have been keeping myself posted with the blog. So I guess it is time for the next step of our art of deception and manipulation of Indian women.

In order for me to go ahead with this step it is important that you have mastered the Step- 1. So let us move on.

Now since you have started having a conversation with the particular girl, it is time to earn her friendship. She might be a bit skeptical at first but with your straight forward attitude she will have her defenses down a bit. You need to utilize it. So the first question that might come to your mind is what to talk about? Well, how the hell should I know? I am not a mind reader. You need to find out yourselves. But I can guide you over the basic aspects that need to be there in the conversation to keep it going and also develop a more in depth relationship with her. Though at first you might not get much chance to talk to her properly, these guidelines will be helpful whenever you do develop the chance.

 The basic points you have to keep in mind are:

1.    Listen:
I guess you have heard this many times before but it still remains the same; you need to listen to her. Listening means paying attention to her and also as to what she is talking. No matter what the subject is, you need to listen. If possible contribute something to the conversation, it helps. But remember if it is a topic which she knows a lot about and you on the other hand are as dumb as a twig about it, it is better to act as someone who doesn’t know about it but at the same time is interested in understanding it. If you listen properly you can ask some genuine doubts. This interest of yours will have an effect on her which will work in your favour.

2.    Talk:
Though it is good to let the girl do the most of the talking if you remain silent throughout then she might feel that you are not interested in talking or sometimes in other words, you are boring. So you need to talk. You don’t have to be a chatter box but whatever you say should be relevant to the topic you both are talking. As I suggested earlier, genuine doubts are good. It is also important that on certain days you lead the talk. I am sure there will be topics of which you know a lot about and which is of interest to her too. You just need to find it. The initial days are for that. Also keep in mind avoid abusive language and swearing as Indian girls resent it, at least in the early days. It is important that you treat her with respect.

3.    The Voice and Sound modulation:
Your voice should beam confidence and should make her feel her that you are happy to talk to her. Always talk clear with proper voice modulations and style. Each of us has a style. You just need to develop it. It is good that you have some bass to your sound as most girls find it appealing and sexy.

4.    Disagreements:
If there is something you don’t agree with don’t go all out against her with the disagreement. Just tell her what you disagree with. You need to back your views with valid reasons and justifications. At no point should you raise your voice to make the point. Though it is not a debate, in case of disagreements it is always better to treat it in a scholastic way.

5.    Talking over the phone:
If possible get her mobile number. Though there are many ways to make her give the number, I choose to ask. It is just that you need to know when it is fine to ask her without invoking her fears. Also when you get her number make sure she has yours too. So it is important that you don’t actually call her right after you get the number. Text her some forward about friendship for a few days. But again try to be as new as possible. Don’t send her the same message which you have received countless times before. Invest sometime to find some new messages in the internet. You can read more about Texting here. Then you may give her a call sometime. Keep the call short and during normal hours. Here you can read how to have a great conversation with her over the phone as I guess in today’s world most of the relations develop over the phone. So it is something to be given thought to.

6.    Sharing talents and hobbies:
There is no body without any talent. I am sure you might have some thing that will fascinate her. Maybe you are good at drawing or singing or dancing or something else. If nothing then maybe you are good with relationship advises. No matter what, you are good at something than others. Identify it and use it. Ask her about her hobbies, if she says reading and you happen to share the same hobby then ask her what sort of books, her favourite author etc. Talk about various authors without making her feel, that you are a nerd. If that is not one of your hobbies tell her how much you appreciate someone who has good reading habits. Make her feel that you too want to have a good reading habit or something of that sort. This will help in developing your budding friendship and it will also help you identifying traits, characters, interests of her which will be very much needed in the future.

7.    Sense of humour:
You need to have a good sense of humour. By sense of humour I mean where you humorous without harming others feelings and also being able to accept the times when you are being made fun of without any resentment. You don’t always have to crack jokes and act funny but based on the circumstances you should be at times. I can write pages and pages but can never fully explain how to have a good sense of humour.

8.    Compliment her:
Last but not the least, you need to compliment her. But here again, I didn't mean flattery. It means a genuine compliment. Also I didn't mean her physical self. Try to really see what the good characters in her are. Get examples of those. When you really feel that she deserves it, lavish it upon her. But never ever over do it. Tell her something which herself might know. But it is always good to hear from someone else.

Already the post has become too long. But it’s just that I have so much to say over all these things, maybe I will write more posts elaborating each step some time. But guess for the time being this will do.
So bye for now and happy dating…