How to have a great conversation and build a relationship with a girl through texting (SMS), Whatsapp, FB or BBM?

Best ways to impress girls through texting

In today’s dating scenario there are no relations which can survive without the least bothersome method of communication- texting(sms) or Whatsapp or Viber or BBM or FB. Be what the name, it is the best way for you to start a conversation with a girl and make a deep relation with her. The best thing about texting to impress a girl is that it doesn’t creep into her privacy as she can reply when and if she feels like. Also if you ever build a true relation with her, you can always re-read the old messages from the beginning till the end how the relation came into being and how you can cherish it for the rest of your life. So let us start, shall we?

• Get her number: The best method I prefer is to ask her directly. Though you cannot ask for the number to a girl who doesn’t know you much, you can ask for her number if you have talked to her sometimes. I will be writing another post detailing how to get her number. But for the time being I can say you can ask for her number as long as she doesn’t think you have some hidden agenda (which you have). Make sure you get her number from her itself else you might seem like a stalker and she will feel nervous and closed towards you. Be open and bold. Make it seem as if it’s not a big deal.
• Introduce yourself: As I said in the case of telephone conversation, in messaging also always introduce yourself until and unless you both are already great friends, which I don’t think is the case here. Well introducing yourself if she doesn’t have your number already is also a great conversation starter.  Just message her- “Hi there (or Name), this (your name). You can save this number for reference. Anyways have a great day and take care”. Make sure you send this message in the morning and when she is fresh. Most probably she will respond with thanks and same to you.
• Send her forwards: Forwards is the best way to keep the lines of communication open as well as indirect. But just be sure to send her unique forwards such as jokes or quotes. Something which has not been doing rounds around texting world for long. Also the jokes should not be dirty jokes as it is not time for it yet.
• Keep an eye for her reaction: You should observe her. How she responds, if she is actively ignoring all your messages. If she hasn’t responded to any of your messages you should stop messaging her but not before messaging- “Hey I feel I have been messaging a wrong number all this while, sorry for the inconvenience.” This really calls for some reply. But then again if there are no responses then you should probably not message her until you see her in person. What will you ask her when you see her in person? Just say, “Hey I guess the number I saved last time was wrong, I sent some messages without knowing it. Nothing much just some forwards and a hi.” After saying this, don’t ask for her number. If she has even the slightest of interest in talking to you she will say something, like “oh no the number is mine, I was just busy so couldn’t reply”. So if she says that, then you have to make it clear saying “hey it’s ok, just thought the number was wrong”. Well this is it. If she says that then it means the next time when you message her she will reply for sure.
• Be prompt: In the first few days it is a difficult game. You have to time your messages. If she sends you a message you have to prompt but not so prompt that she might think you don’t have anything else to do. The good rule of thumb is that if you are busy, you don’t have to reply immediately unless it is urgent. If it is urgent be prompt as you have to be seen as someone who is there when the time calls. But let her know that you have taken time from your work or other engagement (but for God’s sake don’t overdo it). You can do that how? Well, suppose you both talk and then when her urgency is solved you tell her you have to rush as someone or some meeting or something else is waiting and you will catch up with her later.
• Be funny: Hey! Can’t stress on this fact enough. Be funny, tease her- but don’t make fun of her. There is difference. Teasing is funny; making fun of her is not. You must have seen in movies like how you compliment her and in the very next sentence you turn it around teasing her. Do the same. She should see your compliments as a start of a joke like- “Oh was waiting for you for so long. Was tired of counting sheeps to go to sleep, now you are here I can fall asleep easily, hehe or :D”. Don’t make any of your teasings personal such as if she has a bad language or she is dark or something don’t tease based on that. She should get used to it your harmless teasings. Then after some time you give her a genuine compliment. She will be able to value it more. You should also use appropriate emoticons wherever you deem fit.
• Building friendship: OK forwarded messages apart, it is time for you to build on the personal messages. Inquire as to how her day was, or sometimes the best way is to ask her opinion on some problem of yours just like you will ask you friends. This genuinely opens up the channel for communication which is easier to keep up. Also this will make her more open to you.
• Give advises: Give her advises when she asks for it. She might tell you some problem of her. If she does it means she is seeking your opinion. Give her your genuine opinion. If she is not exactly asking for your help just say, “I know I am no one to tell you but, don’t you think….(explain what the solution should be)”.
• Talking dirty: No it doesn't mean you start message sex but it means you both come out of your comfort shell and be more open to each other. SMS sex is whole another ball game and so is talking dirty. This will be covered in detail in a future post. Well the start of talking dirty is sending forwards. But in order to make sure how she feels just her an adult message immediately followed by a very, very, very sorry message saying it was wrongly forwarded. While a sorry or very sorry message might get ignored, a very very very sorry message seldom does. This is to get her reaction. Based on that you can move forward.Talking dirty is not just for your sexual satisfaction but rather for you both to be more open.
• More personal talks: If things have gone well so far, you have to go to more personal talks like actual indirect flirting. What is that you ask? Tell her how you wish you could marry her. She will be like what? Then you say, yes I have done so many sins, it is better that I suffer for all that here on earth itself so that I am not taken to hell. She knows you didn't mean it. But it’s indirect. She can’t blame you. The ending of this step is when you can say “I love you” to each other knowing very well that it’s not that type of love. You may like when she says something you really liked may kiss her (thru message of course) on her forehead or cheeks. That too can be explained in detail. So yes another blog topic to write about. Keep posted to read more.

In the end of all this you have a friend who might just turn out to be something more. You can talk to her over phone and here are ways to have a great telephone conversation. Use all the things you learnt here in ways you deem fit. But do remember in all these steps and unlimited flirting you never propose to her. You don’t want to be the first to propose. Why? Post will come. Be the butterfly that’s beautiful to look at but difficult to catch. So that’s all for this post which has already turned out to be so freaking long. So cya for now and happy dating.

How to have a killer telephone conversation with a girl?

Talking to a girl on the phone

As I promised earlier, this is my post about how to have a good conversation over the phone. Since these days most of the relations develop over the telephone, it is important that you are equipped with knowledge on how to talk to her over the phone in the best possible way. So let us get down to business:

• Identify yourself:
  In case you are calling or texting her  for the first time and she does not have your number, identify yourself the very first time. Never try to play Guess who or secret admirer game. She would feel as if you are stalking her. Calling without identifying yourself is fine only when you both are great friends, which I suppose is not the case here.
  
  
• Respect her Privacy:
  Just because she gave you her number it doesn't mean she has to talk to you all the time. Respect her privacy and give her the needed space.
  
  
• Talk about something interesting:
  Since in the early stages it is difficult to keep the talk alive over call, I prefer texting. I start with unique forwards then some personal messages like Good Night (Name) or Hey (Name)! Wassup etc here and there. With the text messages the best thing is that you don't crawl into her personal space. Get to know her interests then move onto calls when it is convenient for both of you. And choose topics of interests to both.
  
  
• Move onto personal topics:
  Moving to personal and deeper topics is something to be done with at most care but to be done nevertheless. It is like, you approach indirectly first, then based on her reactions change to a more direct approach. Suppose you need to know her views about love, relationship etc. You can first say, "I had a terrible day. One of my very good friends is left with a broken heart." Then make a story. Tell it convincingly. Then, "What crap yaar, why all the tension? Right?". You can also say, "There was a time when I was hoping for a girlfriend, but now, it is better not to have one." The best thing about this is that she may get the subtle hints of flirting she cannot accuse you of anything as you have said everything indirectly. Parents, siblings, relationships are good way of starting up with personal talk.
  
  
• Give her sound advice:
  If you are able to make a good rapport with her, then it is highly likely that she will for advice with one thing or the other. At those times you need to talk from her point of view and then give a sound advice. It should be something that you may do under similar circumstances, something you can defend.
  
  
• Whisper
  Sometimes if the calls stretch to late night calls. Reduce your voice to a whisper. Say it is because there is someone there at your place or some other reason. She might ask you to keep the phone then. You can say, "No, it is OK. I want to talk, provided you are not feeling sleepy." This acts as if you both are sharing a secret which helps in deepening the relationship.
  
  
• Keep the Phone:
  In case you are feeling sleepy or you feel she is, keep the phone after wishing her for the night. In case she slept off while on call, cut the call and DON'T call or text right then. The next day is OK. Also if she cuts the call without saying anything, don't call her right then. She may have reasons to cut the call and she may not want your calls at that time.
  
  
• Don't always call her:
  It is not important that it should be you whos is calling all the time. She will call you when she misses  you. How to make her miss you? That is what I talked over throughout the blog.

So thats all for time being and take care. Happy Dating