How to have a great conversation and build a relationship with a girl through texting (SMS), Whatsapp, FB or BBM?

Best ways to impress girls through texting

In today’s dating scenario there are no relations which can survive without the least bothersome method of communication- texting(sms) or Whatsapp or Viber or BBM or FB. Be what the name, it is the best way for you to start a conversation with a girl and make a deep relation with her. The best thing about texting to impress a girl is that it doesn’t creep into her privacy as she can reply when and if she feels like. Also if you ever build a true relation with her, you can always re-read the old messages from the beginning till the end how the relation came into being and how you can cherish it for the rest of your life. So let us start, shall we?

• Get her number: The best method I prefer is to ask her directly. Though you cannot ask for the number to a girl who doesn’t know you much, you can ask for her number if you have talked to her sometimes. I will be writing another post detailing how to get her number. But for the time being I can say you can ask for her number as long as she doesn’t think you have some hidden agenda (which you have). Make sure you get her number from her itself else you might seem like a stalker and she will feel nervous and closed towards you. Be open and bold. Make it seem as if it’s not a big deal.
• Introduce yourself: As I said in the case of telephone conversation, in messaging also always introduce yourself until and unless you both are already great friends, which I don’t think is the case here. Well introducing yourself if she doesn’t have your number already is also a great conversation starter.  Just message her- “Hi there (or Name), this (your name). You can save this number for reference. Anyways have a great day and take care”. Make sure you send this message in the morning and when she is fresh. Most probably she will respond with thanks and same to you.
• Send her forwards: Forwards is the best way to keep the lines of communication open as well as indirect. But just be sure to send her unique forwards such as jokes or quotes. Something which has not been doing rounds around texting world for long. Also the jokes should not be dirty jokes as it is not time for it yet.
• Keep an eye for her reaction: You should observe her. How she responds, if she is actively ignoring all your messages. If she hasn’t responded to any of your messages you should stop messaging her but not before messaging- “Hey I feel I have been messaging a wrong number all this while, sorry for the inconvenience.” This really calls for some reply. But then again if there are no responses then you should probably not message her until you see her in person. What will you ask her when you see her in person? Just say, “Hey I guess the number I saved last time was wrong, I sent some messages without knowing it. Nothing much just some forwards and a hi.” After saying this, don’t ask for her number. If she has even the slightest of interest in talking to you she will say something, like “oh no the number is mine, I was just busy so couldn’t reply”. So if she says that, then you have to make it clear saying “hey it’s ok, just thought the number was wrong”. Well this is it. If she says that then it means the next time when you message her she will reply for sure.
• Be prompt: In the first few days it is a difficult game. You have to time your messages. If she sends you a message you have to prompt but not so prompt that she might think you don’t have anything else to do. The good rule of thumb is that if you are busy, you don’t have to reply immediately unless it is urgent. If it is urgent be prompt as you have to be seen as someone who is there when the time calls. But let her know that you have taken time from your work or other engagement (but for God’s sake don’t overdo it). You can do that how? Well, suppose you both talk and then when her urgency is solved you tell her you have to rush as someone or some meeting or something else is waiting and you will catch up with her later.
• Be funny: Hey! Can’t stress on this fact enough. Be funny, tease her- but don’t make fun of her. There is difference. Teasing is funny; making fun of her is not. You must have seen in movies like how you compliment her and in the very next sentence you turn it around teasing her. Do the same. She should see your compliments as a start of a joke like- “Oh was waiting for you for so long. Was tired of counting sheeps to go to sleep, now you are here I can fall asleep easily, hehe or :D”. Don’t make any of your teasings personal such as if she has a bad language or she is dark or something don’t tease based on that. She should get used to it your harmless teasings. Then after some time you give her a genuine compliment. She will be able to value it more. You should also use appropriate emoticons wherever you deem fit.
• Building friendship: OK forwarded messages apart, it is time for you to build on the personal messages. Inquire as to how her day was, or sometimes the best way is to ask her opinion on some problem of yours just like you will ask you friends. This genuinely opens up the channel for communication which is easier to keep up. Also this will make her more open to you.
• Give advises: Give her advises when she asks for it. She might tell you some problem of her. If she does it means she is seeking your opinion. Give her your genuine opinion. If she is not exactly asking for your help just say, “I know I am no one to tell you but, don’t you think….(explain what the solution should be)”.
• Talking dirty: No it doesn't mean you start message sex but it means you both come out of your comfort shell and be more open to each other. SMS sex is whole another ball game and so is talking dirty. This will be covered in detail in a future post. Well the start of talking dirty is sending forwards. But in order to make sure how she feels just her an adult message immediately followed by a very, very, very sorry message saying it was wrongly forwarded. While a sorry or very sorry message might get ignored, a very very very sorry message seldom does. This is to get her reaction. Based on that you can move forward.Talking dirty is not just for your sexual satisfaction but rather for you both to be more open.
• More personal talks: If things have gone well so far, you have to go to more personal talks like actual indirect flirting. What is that you ask? Tell her how you wish you could marry her. She will be like what? Then you say, yes I have done so many sins, it is better that I suffer for all that here on earth itself so that I am not taken to hell. She knows you didn't mean it. But it’s indirect. She can’t blame you. The ending of this step is when you can say “I love you” to each other knowing very well that it’s not that type of love. You may like when she says something you really liked may kiss her (thru message of course) on her forehead or cheeks. That too can be explained in detail. So yes another blog topic to write about. Keep posted to read more.

In the end of all this you have a friend who might just turn out to be something more. You can talk to her over phone and here are ways to have a great telephone conversation. Use all the things you learnt here in ways you deem fit. But do remember in all these steps and unlimited flirting you never propose to her. You don’t want to be the first to propose. Why? Post will come. Be the butterfly that’s beautiful to look at but difficult to catch. So that’s all for this post which has already turned out to be so freaking long. So cya for now and happy dating.

Step- 1: How to start the first conversation?

First conversation with her

All right here we start with the first step on our way to impressing girls and the art of deception and manipulation. Remember that looks here are not important. So incase you have feeling that you are ugly have no fear as girls don’t judge much by looks.

How many times have we hoped to have a chance to talk to the girl of our dreams? But never had the nerve to start the conversation. How many times have we seen a girl daily but other than a passive look we have not been able to earn anything more? So our first step is for those poor souls.

“Ogling at a girl will not do any good, but a well timed and well placed look can make all the difference.”

• The holding look
  Did you know that best looking, part of your body is your eyes whether you are a gal or a guy. No matter how bad you look, your eyes are as beautiful as you want it to be.
  
  Yes the first step to get the attention of the particular girl is to make an eye contact. The look should be long enough to differentiate it from a passive glance but at the same time not a stare. As we know Indian girls are very careful in respect to strangers and so any direct advance early will make them go into defensive. Which is the last thing will we would want to do. So let us go into the details of the ‘look’.
  
  The look should be for about 5-10 seconds (not longer), directly into her eyes. Don’t get panicky if you both make eye contact. Just act cool. Keep the look for maybe 6 seconds then look at someone whom you know or are talking to. Avoid looking down right after the ‘glance‘. You can have the holding look while walking, standing or sitting. But care should be taken that you don’t turn back and stare at her as this is unfriendly. Any time you have to turn your head for more than 90 degrees on any side from looking straight is a reverse glance. This should be avoided. Specially during the first few days. Also it is better to avoid all sorts of facial expressions the first few days. Try this for a week. See if there are any changes in the way she looks at you.
• The Smile
  After a week you can include a slight smile with your look. As in the case of looks, smile too must be timed. It must not be a grin or a smirk. Just a light happy face first then you can move up as days pass on. Timing should be first you look, then you recognize then smile. Look away after 6 seconds while smiling. But as soon as you have looked away stop smiling. You don’t want to look like an idiot in front of her. This is just showing recognition. This is necessary to break her defense against strangers. You have to properly notice her reaction the first time you give her a smile of yours. If she shows detachment repeat the looks part again.
  
  Ok, now I hope that you have got the looks and smile in place. I will call the step a success if she too returns your smile. So if you have earned her smile, here comes the third step of our ice breaker.
• The First Talk
  Oh yes! You will talk to her. Don’t worry, nothing much. You just have to wish her ’Good Morning’ or something of that sort. It is better to avoid hello as it necessarily doesn’t convey anything. But a Good Morning is much better as it sound somewhat official. This again is just a suggestion. . This is to reassure her that you are fine and she need not worry about you or your advances.
• The Conversation
  If things have been going fine during the above steps, you are ready to go for the kill. The Actual conversation. You can start with a hello, something more informal as compared to the earlier Good Morning stuff. Then move on to something that is happening and interesting. You can say a sentence and then based on her response ask her a question which cannot be answered in a mono syllable. This will help in keeping the conversation moving. But if you think she is not interested in talking, just think that the day is not good. There are many other days which can be utilized. So don't be disheartened.
  
  During the course of time I have faced some very interesting situation. One is that no matter what you do, the girl will not make an eye contact. One way I approached such girls was I made situations where they had to look at me. Like dropping the kerchief or something like that near her. And asking if she can pick it for you. Then when she looks at you give her one of your killer smiles.
  
  In case you have any queries or an unique situation, please let me know. I will do my best to provide you with a prompt response...
  
  Happy dating...